Do you have these symptoms? Not trusting yourself including doubting or second-guessing yourself Ignoring how your body feels or pushing it to the limit constantly Asking for people's opinion on an important decision you need to make Believing that thinking will solve your problem If so, you have fallen prey to... APPLY LOGIC SYNDROME It's a devastating disease. And it's prominent in our culture. Thanks to the Scientific Revolution and … [Read more...]
Are You Hurting Yourself? #SelfAbuse
So I’ve had a lot of experience dealing with abusive people over the years and lately I’ve been considering it from several angles. If you haven’t read my earlier piece, read Dealing With Verbal Abuse. Unfortunately, there is a whole other element that I’ve been looking at because I notice how pervasive abuse is towards different groups (past & present): females, blacks, LGBT, Hispanic, Muslims, Jews, and so on. I’ve been looking at: How … [Read more...]
Dealing With Verbal Abuse #RedFlags
Do you ever have someone who stresses you out beyond normal? Someone who yells at you or makes digs? Do they make it seem like you are the one to blame for just about everything? Ugh. Hate that! There are a couple of people in my life that I realize are verbally abusive. Harsh words to say, I know. But pretending that they have my best interests at heart is a complete disservice to myself. And hoping that they will change is often wishful … [Read more...]
Release The Barriers To Love
You know how you have those moments where you don't feel loved? They can hit you at the most stunning moment and knock you for a loop, especially during different holidays. We all struggle with this at times. And we need to feel loved. It's part of the human experience. A while ago, I came across a line from the mystic poet Rumi: Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built … [Read more...]
Stop The Insanity!
The big, modern feminist dream has been to DO IT ALL. Be the best mother, wife, worker, friend, and more. Be everything to everybody! It's a recipe for disaster and burn out. Have you tried it? How's that working out for you? Even just trying to be the best of 2 categories can wear you thin. Be the best girlfriend and worker. Be kind, helpful, loving, sweet, and thoughtful. Always. We are sold this "dream" as we … [Read more...]
How Can I Help You?
Dear Friend, Remember when you were talking about wanting to help that family member? Or the friend who is stuck? You wanted to help solve her problems so that she could feel better. Well, I have news for you. It’s going to be a long, rocky road if you spend all your time thinking that you need to help her. Because you are, in essence, trying to FIX her. On a divine level, she’s not broken. She doesn’t need fixing. She may need help, … [Read more...]
How Is the Law of Attraction Getting in Your Way?
You know what drives me nuts? People who say you should be positive all the time. If you do that it can be detrimental to your health at some point. It is super important that you acknowledge all of your feelings and not resist them, even if people claim being positive all the time will help you with the Law of Attraction concept. We have a tendency to label some feelings "good" and some "bad." But in essence that is just a judgment on an emotion or … [Read more...]
Boundaries Are Sexy
There is a particular person in my life who irritates me on a regular basis. Let's call him, Henry. Henry has a way of getting under my skin. It's a gift he has. And I have learned that when someone annoys me like this it means I need to stand up for myself and be clear about my boundaries. Now. Here's the thing. I've been programmed to be nice. Nice girls are polite and aren't supposed to hurt anyone's feelings. Yuck! Social … [Read more...]
How Your Body Is A Compass
Have you ever considered that your body is a compass? (Martha Beck loves to talk about this idea.) Your body has the ability to show you the way. It picks up signals from its environment. How does a place feel? What kind of vibes does this person give off? Your body acts as an antenna. Receiving information on a whole other frequency. Here's the thing. Your mind jumbles the signals, sometimes for the better to talk you out of … [Read more...]
Need your advice. Help!
People keep asking for help with making decisions. Should I choose A or B? I get that it can be tough to make a decision. But why are you giving your power away to someone else? Why not take the power back and get more comfortable with your own decision-making skills? Your mind can trip you up with choices at times and that's why people get stuck in a loop of asking for other people's input. Don’t get me wrong. There are times to seek advice, especially … [Read more...]